Communal Dining

Love it or hate it, communal dining is the latest “big thing” to hit L.A. I have a piece on Dinela.com discussing this trend of tables where strangers sit side-by-side, striking up conversations and occasionally sharing a slice of pizza. Personally, I love the serendipity of it all. I also love the fact that I don’t need a reservation. I can walk into Gjelina or AK or Bar Centro at the SLS Hotel on a whim and find a seat.
Los Angeles has a pretty entrenched reputation for isolation. Everyone gets into their hermetically sealed cars and drives to a specific destination. Only in neighborhoods such as Venice and Los Feliz do pedestrians actually walk around and run into one another. Not surprisingly, those are the neighborhoods where communal tables work best. Yet, I think we all crave community and connection, even if we’re a little afraid at first. And fear is a huge impediment. Here’s Evan Kleiman, host of KCRW’s “Good Food,” on the response to her experiment with family style dinners at Angeli Caffe:
“Some people would walk in and then immediately turn and start to walk out — I’m not sitting by somebody I don’t know. We’d have to sort of cajole them to sit down. And then they’d sit but leave spaces between them.”
However, some of us like a little danger. If you open yourself up to the unexpected, you never know what might happen. Joan McNamara, chef/owner of Joan’s on Third, calls her communal table “magical.” Strangers have met there, fallen in love and gotten engaged.
“I don’t think people want to feel isolated, especially in this economy,” says McNamara, who had an elderly friend once tell her the Great Depression wasn’t so terrible “‘because we were all in it together.’ Maybe that’s what people are finding now. If you were sitting at two separate tables, you would almost never hand food to someone else.”
Much has been written about the so-called Millennial Generation that helped sweep President Obama into office. They’re less into dating and more into hanging out with groups. They like cooperation, which might explain this new trend. Not to stereotype my own people, but Gen Xers may be just a tad more cynical. Here’s my friend Julia:
“I loathe communal tables. I also hate small plates. I like old fashioned dinners where you eat your own food with people you already know.”
As Victor often says, it’s a large and free nation. Each to her own. But in my book, interaction is good, and the unknown is worth exploring, even if you have to suffer through a few awkward moments. What do you think? An introvert’s worst nightmare or a whimsical delight? — Jenny

Is there room for a “maybe” vote? If we’re dining with another couple then usually we want to catch up with each other and have our own conversation. Same with family gatherings. But certainly if it’s just my husband and myself, it’s fun occasionally to sit at a communal table and chat with others. Here in Virginia communal dining is not the norm, but there is a new Ale House downtown with a couple of communal tables and a huge bar as well as separate tables. We’ll see how if it catches on. Of course, the whole experience is certainly enhanced by liquid conversation lubricants.
Absolutely. What’s the name of the place? Is it in downtown Fredericksburg?
The Capitol Ale House (Alehouse?) is in downtown Fred’brg. It’s an offshoot of a place with the same name in Richmond. It’s becoming quite popular here, in part because it’s the only place you can get a table and a bit of food after 10:00pm, and also for it’s extensive beer menu. We also like Sunday brunch there with interesting menu choices such as crabmeat eggs Benedict and a wonderful salmon plate as well as Belgian waffles to die for.
Amazing experience!!
You mean The Bazaar, Simply Heaven, or communal dining? Both are amazing experiences.
I don’t mind the whole communal dining. I think it bring togetherness in some way. I’ve met some interesting people in that type of eating environment. They’re great for inspiration on story Ideas, too. =)
btw… I love Joan’s on Third!!
I agree, completely, jenn.
many ethnic cuisines do not even understand the concept of “entrees”. while Gjelina’s outdoor seating bugs the bejesus out of me, Avec in Chicago, queen of the communal dining concept, remains one of my favorites.
And let us not forget every Chinese restaurant has lazy susan’s so…
Yes, my husband, Victor, is Chinese American. And I love the round table, lazy Susan. That’s family-style dining, and I love it. I make a distinction between that and communal tables that encourage you sit sit and dine with strangers.